I hate cancer. I just want it to leave my family, friends and me alone. And just leave everyone else alone, too. It’s already bullied my mom and me, and now it’s trying to attack one of my good friends.
When I left my ex and moved out of the house, my friend N let me stay with her for three months while I gathered myself back together. Imposing on someone for that long goes against my very nature, but her kindness and open-heartedness made me feel welcome and safe. Those three months were exactly what I needed to help me process and take the next step in my life.
N is an amazingly unselfish and giving person, and everyone she has helped is coming out of the woodwork to support her. It really is an indication of who she is and just how much she is loved. True to form, she told me that if anyone in her family had to get diagnosed with cancer, she was glad it was her. She isn’t married, doesn’t have kids like her two sisters do, and doesn’t have to worry about finances because her workplace is stepping up to support her as well. She will be able to fully concentrate on kicking cancer’s ass.
In the presence of such an incredible person, I could only do this: tell her just how incredible she is. Tell her with total belief in her strength as a future survivor.
If you are feeling it from the heart, say it. Or find ways to express the gratitude and joy you feel without the expectation of getting the perfect response or in fact, getting anything in return. What are you saving it for?